People who dismiss the unemployed and dependent as ‘parasites’ fail to understand economics and parasitism. A successful parasite is one that is not recognized by its host, one that can make its host work for it without appearing as a burden. Such is a ruling class in a capitalist society.
Jason Read (via finedineonmyvegangenitalia)
I do not understand this “male privilege” bullshit.
What. Fucking. Privileges. Do….
Seriously, OMG NUMBER FORTY FOUR. I freaking hate that shit and it happens literally all the goddamn time.
The violations started small. I was 12, fairly tall with brand new boobs. My mother wouldn’t let me buy “real bras” for a long time. It didn’t occur to me that was weird until boys in my class started advising me to “stop wearing sports bras” because I was looking a little “saggy.”
It was a…
If you’re a dude, you should really read this.
The only reason, THE ONLY REASON, I didn’t catch this much hell growing up was because until about middle school I was big enough to pound the ever living shit out of any guy who tried. But once I hit high school and the boys started piling on muscle and height, I stopped feeling quite so safe. They mostly left me alone because I dressed in baggy clothes and presented myself as a tomboy and otherwise made myself as sexually undesirable to straight boys as possible. After high school I started dressing a little more feminine, and only then did people start to get real persistent with the come-ons. And in some cases, I’m talking extreme persistence. As if it’s okay for a man to try to talk a woman into sex, as if it’s OKAY to wear her down.
We don’t talk a lot about consent here in America. Maybe it’s different in other parts of the world, and maybe it isn’t, but in my experience a lot of men don’t really understand that “giving it up” isn’t the same as consenting. If you have to talk her into it then she’s not okay with it, so just stop.
Most of the women I know pretty much expect to have to fend off at least one unwanted suitor at some point in their lives. Which is to say, we EXPECT men to try to violate us. I think that if you are a man, you should have a problem with that, and you should educate yourself, and you should get active, and you should do something about that.
We have a pretty strong blame-the-victim mentality when it comes to sexual assault and rape, and that just isn’t right, isn’t acceptable. If I get assaulted, it’s not my fault, it’s my assaulter’s. If a store got robbed would you blame the store owner? No. So don’t tell a rape victim that she shouldn’t have worn those clothes, or that she should’ve taken a self defense course.
And furthermore, there are plenty of instances of rape that aren’t necessarily violent. Sex without consent is still rape, is still MASSIVELY damaging to the victim. It’s a violation, plain and simple, whether she struggled or not. It doesn’t matter if she was drunk, or drugged, or just plain socially conditioned to lay there and take it.
All I’m saying is consent is sexy, and there’s no such thing as asking “is this alright?” too many times.
breathe in it, taste in it, ride it into the ground
all day long you’ll seek out pattern and order and design
and find it wanting
in every human effort a flaw
but there yet a flow, an ebb, a rhythm,
words and words and words
none of them matter.